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The comment about not dating someone who is depressed can go the other way too. I do not think I would knowingly start dating a man who is clinically depressed. But if I fell in love with him before he became clinically depressed then I would support him.
As for someone being clinically depressed, no single human being experiences it the same way or responds to it in the same manner. What some people don’t understand is that a partner who does not take responsibility for his/her own illness (physical and/or mental) and depends on you for absolutely everything, expecting you to be a miracle problem solver rather than their partner is extremely draining of positive energy.
Another person may not do this and actually take ownership of their own illness. If a alcohol dependent person does not want to stop drinking and you have asked them if they want to stop the task is not yours to fulfil but theirs. They will only stop if they want to. But they cannot blame you for it. That’s where the problem lies.
With depression, you cannot make someone see a psychologist, not misuse illegal substances to handle their illness, take medications, take part in activities they used to like. If it is someone you love and you are watching them unmotivated and in a dark place you can feel helpless and exasperated.